Our souls were meant to be

Soul Family

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Soulmates. The word usually brings to mind images of two destined lovers embracing while angels sing in the background, and heaven opens up to shine down upon them. Okay, maybe the angels are a bit much, but you get my point. When most people think of soulmates, they think of two lovers destined to meet and fall in love. It is the quintessential essence of what being one’s true love entails.

I don’t see soulmates that way though. To me, a soulmate can be anyone. Your beloved pet, your child, your childhood best friend, or even yes, your lover. It is anyone who is a part of your immediate soul family or group.

Now if you are unfamiliar with this concept you are probably wondering what the heck I mean by a soul group or family. Well, I could explain it, but I like how Erin Palvina, a noted life counselor, explains it on her website.

People you recognize because you know each other from the ether. You’ll feel drawn to them. You may have even pre-arranged a meeting because you have business together. You’ll have soul connections with potentially hundreds of people in any incarnation. You may not meet them all, but they’re here. These soul connections are with people in what we call a soul group.

Now, what does this have to do with my writing, you, or me even. A lot actually. It means that you don’t have to wait for Prince(ss) Charming to come along to save you, or be ride up as a Prince(ss) in shining armor to save your beloved.  Despite what a lot of romance novels and movies will tell you.

Instead, you can be happy and realize that love is not bound to one person and that if you are out there looking for the one, then you might just be passing one of the many available ones up in order to look for something that does not exist. It also means that you can have multiple loving relationships that involve different variances and meanings of love without feeling guilty.

It’s like having more than one child. Just because you have more than one doesn’t mean you have to withhold your love from all the others and give it to only one child. You don’t have to play favorites, although some parents do. Personally, I believe this is a product of the way modern culture views love as a finite commodity reserved only for spouses and significant others, but I digress.

I’m not condoning cheating in a romantic relationship in anyway with this, but I am saying that you don’t have to give up friendships just to please one person and give them all your love and attention. Just be mindful of boundaries that you set with your partner and remember that love permeates all things in life. It is free and is to be given and received freely. If you keep this in mind, life will be much easier and bearable in the long run.



Concept of the Twin

And when one of them meets with his other half  . . . these are the people who pass their whole lives together; yet they could not explain what they desire of one another. For the intense yearning which each of them has towards the other does not appear to be the desire of lover’s intercourse, but of something else which the soul of either evidently desires and cannot tell, and of which she has only a dark and doubtful presentiment

From Plato’s The Symposium

Tales of great love abound in the world, yet there is one type that I am especially fond of. The concept of what is commonly referred to as twin flames or twin souls. Plato is the earliest source for such a concept as mentioned in the quote above. A love between two people that is ultimately free of any restrictions that the modern concept of love places onto most relationships.  Restrictions such as jealousy, fear of losing someone, and leaving once you don’t feel the spark anymore. Not that all modern tales of love have these pitfalls, but a good majority do at some stage.

Another difference is that twin flames doesn’t the love between twin flames isn’t always a romantic love, although it can be. It is an intense bond that surpasses time and brings with it a feeling of knowing. The main idea behind it is that when the human race was made, we were both masculine and feminine in one form. But those two parts were split apart and therefore mankind was left with the burden of always striving to find their other half.

When one meets their twin flame it is said that you experience a great feeling of coming home. Even if they are involved romantically with someone else, it doesn’t matter. As long as you have your twin in your life, you feel whole again. This does not necessarily mean you feel you need them to be happy, although it can lead to feelings of hopelessness when they leave your life. But it is more like knowing that you found someone who you can connect with on a level most people will never experience. Everything just falls into sync between the two people involved, and you feel like they are literally a mirror of your entire soul. From your greatest fears to your greatest accomplishments, they are the reflection of your true self.

As with almost all good things, a love like this does have its own drawbacks. There is the potential that one, if not both, parties will be very scared of the feeling that comes with such a unique experience. Leading to feelings of rejection, confusion, and overall anxiety about being drawn to a complete stranger and not being able to stop such feelings. There This causes one to run away, leading to a sometimes never ending cycle of feelings of emotional pain and loss. It’s a complex love and one that I greatly enjoy writing and reading about. Possibly because I felt it once before myself.

What are your thoughts though? Do you believe twin flames exist, and if so, have you ever experienced such a connection yourself?