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Soulmates. The word usually brings to mind images of two destined lovers embracing while angels sing in the background, and heaven opens up to shine down upon them. Okay, maybe the angels are a bit much, but you get my point. When most people think of soulmates, they think of two lovers destined to meet and fall in love. It is the quintessential essence of what being one’s true love entails.
I don’t see soulmates that way though. To me, a soulmate can be anyone. Your beloved pet, your child, your childhood best friend, or even yes, your lover. It is anyone who is a part of your immediate soul family or group.
Now if you are unfamiliar with this concept you are probably wondering what the heck I mean by a soul group or family. Well, I could explain it, but I like how Erin Palvina, a noted life counselor, explains it on her website.
People you recognize because you know each other from the ether. You’ll feel drawn to them. You may have even pre-arranged a meeting because you have business together. You’ll have soul connections with potentially hundreds of people in any incarnation. You may not meet them all, but they’re here. These soul connections are with people in what we call a soul group.
Now, what does this have to do with my writing, you, or me even. A lot actually. It means that you don’t have to wait for Prince(ss) Charming to come along to save you, or be ride up as a Prince(ss) in shining armor to save your beloved. Despite what a lot of romance novels and movies will tell you.
Instead, you can be happy and realize that love is not bound to one person and that if you are out there looking for the one, then you might just be passing one of the many available ones up in order to look for something that does not exist. It also means that you can have multiple loving relationships that involve different variances and meanings of love without feeling guilty.
It’s like having more than one child. Just because you have more than one doesn’t mean you have to withhold your love from all the others and give it to only one child. You don’t have to play favorites, although some parents do. Personally, I believe this is a product of the way modern culture views love as a finite commodity reserved only for spouses and significant others, but I digress.
I’m not condoning cheating in a romantic relationship in anyway with this, but I am saying that you don’t have to give up friendships just to please one person and give them all your love and attention. Just be mindful of boundaries that you set with your partner and remember that love permeates all things in life. It is free and is to be given and received freely. If you keep this in mind, life will be much easier and bearable in the long run.